Conquering your weakness through introspection and reflection.
If you’re good enough, why do you try so hard to prove that you are? Your weakness cannot be used against you. Well, it can… if you are afraid of it. And being afraid of your weakness is being afraid of yourself.
Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you. —Tyrion Lannister
Think about a person that you despise. The manipulation kind who steals all spotlights at work. The kind that uses guilt-tripping techniques to catch your flaws and have them laid bare for everyone to see. Now… think about why you hate that person. Are they excellent at magnifying your bad and toning down your good?
Here’s my real-life introspection inspired by Mark Manson:
* Why does Person X hate the little things that I do? *
Obviously, because she cannot stand me.
* Why can she not stand me? *
Because I didn’t do things she tells me to do.
* Why don’t I do the things she told me to do? *
Because I don’t value her.
* Why don’t I value her? *
She has nothing for me to value. And she cannot stand the idea of someone thinking she’s not worth it. Hence, the manipulation and the effort to make people feel small so she could be bigger.
That explains that it is unreasonable for me to dislike her. She and I have one thing in common: we don’t like people stomping on our confidence. She and I are different because, by realizing that she only feeds on everyone’s defects, I know that she tries to hide her own.
You, my dear, need not tremble at the shadows of your other half. You shall remember to maintain your balance and embrace your reflections. Do not hold yourself liable for other people’s fears. Rid yourself of the unnecessary doubts while continuing to thrive. Thrive despite the rocks thrown at you. You’ll find all the unexpected good things inside a bad experience.
“Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.” ― Mark Manson
Seneca once said that “all cruelty springs from weakness”. Embracing your weakness is simultaneously tackling your insecurities. Forgiving your insecurities is allowing yourself further space to rise. Drowning in your insecurities is defining your own worth based on the threshold of success set by the rest of society. Do have the courage to change, but do have the resistance to the rhythm.
Those who cause you unhappiness don’t deserve to be talked about. In a world filled with pride, greed, and misleading dignity, stick to kindness. Never shut a door for anyone; let them explore the journey and experience real growth developed with distinctive resolutions. In a way, we are all at our own trials. It’s always better to acknowledge what it is that we are rather than trapping ourselves within the prison of lies. When you accept yourself as you are, how exactly does an insult come to trigger such bitterness and resentment?
Perhaps strength is a series of words and actions invented in its order from fabricating an impeccable utopia. Perhaps weakness is a series of words and actions alienated from that order. One could spend all of their lifetimes chasing societal growth while remaining undesirable. It is entirely upon you to decide which part you contribute to play. After all, it is too great a price to suit all verses in different rhythms at once.
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